Thursday, 18 January 2018

Pricking Questions Women Are Asked


People are pressuring left and right for marriage?
Being asked of “when are you giving us the good news” constantly?
Nosy Aunties around??

Our societies have a lot to change. It is slowly changing, which is good. A lot of cultures have this problem but women are taking more of a stand. I love bringing up topics like these, as women can be traditional yet still take a stand on their lives. Some people refuse to change their mentality and instead are so tunneled visioned.

No matter what, it is painful to be asked this question, especially by strangers. Women need to be more empathetic towards each other and need to support when such things happen. I just wish that all women had the freedom to choose who and what they want in life rather than it being forced up on them. Give women the space and freedom to decide what's best for them.

We as women can do and be anything. But if you are not married and then have kids shortly after society looks at you as a failure. Why can’t a married woman get blessings like may you travel the world OR get successful OR stay healthy OR stuff life that? It is just plain rude, insensitive and also very sexist to ask women these questions. We as women can do and be anything. Maybe it's not just an Indian thing.

Magazines are always circling bumps around Jennifer Aniston's stomach and wondering if she is preggers. This is a worldwide madness, I suppose. Mainly because everyone is always looking at other people and wondering about their lives and curious about their private lives, that's just how most people are. Unfortunately we cannot control the way people think or what they say. We can control the way we react to this. It is going to happen WHEN and IF I want! Simple! Don't bog someone down for a piece of gossip! Just let HER be.

Do not take your own for granted and most definitely mind your own business! My thoughts are unless the woman makes a formal statement that she is pregnant you shouldn’t assume or start congratulating someone. I know a lot of women suffer from fertility issues and being hounded about having a child adds to an already stressful situation. People are more worried than you as to why you aren't married even when you are 26/27../30?!

And women need to unlearn the art of looking down upon other women. Let's make the world a better place. It's time to change the nosy mentality. If I spoke your mind, please be generous and like the video, share it and comment your views on this, so that my and your voice reaches to maximum people and they should know that they must stop bothering about other's private affairs.

Lots of love from me!

Monday, 15 January 2018

NOT A Feminist, But A HUMANIST




Please be instrumental in encouraging the women around you with their careers. It is so, so vital. Let her do something she ENJOYS doing. It is the 21st century. See what she puts her 100 % into, what she loves investing her time into, why would you find it objectionable? Does she being better than you, smarter than you, scare you? If it does, I am so sorry to let you know, how inferior you are - in your little brain as well as in your personality.

I don’t see how she “working” or doing something unconventional as a career make you question if she’s a threat to your family reputation (when marriage is concerned)? HOW!?

Dear Society, you need to accept strong headed, independent women. IT’S HIGH TIME! And people, ask for SUPPORTIVE MARRIAGE, and not a DOMINATING one! And, no, I am NOT a feminist here, I am being a HUMANIST. I prefer critical thinking over any social dogma, always. Besides, it is one of the basic rights, for a person to do what he/she loves to do! Don’t kill their vibes and the essence of ‘them being them’.

Friday, 5 January 2018

Book Review : Small Is Big





"Small is the new big." With Small is Big, Rafaa Dalvi has created a potpourri of 100 diverse micro tales (140 characters or less) that will provide you a rich experience in easy-to-digest fragments and urge you to read one page after another before you finally finish the book. It is such a page turner and keeps you hooked.

The title of the book is highly justified. I was lost in the world created by Rafaa. It is a breezy read that gives the readers many flavors all seasoned into one book. Being a multi genre book, you will experience all emotions all at once while enjoying this book. But everything is not upright there, 10% is revealed and 90% is for the readers to imagine. Stories build up a thought provoking process as it is a perfect mix of dark, light hearted and diverse plots.

And the best part is that there’s a story for everyone, including YOU that will have a huge impact on you. A superb collection of tales with topics ranging from love, loss, pride, crime, thrill among many others!

Tiny tales or micro fiction are easy to read, and my favorite reads, as they require less attention span, infact, this book, you keep flipping pages and within minutes, you reach the end!

We see many Instagram pages popping up every day promising to set a platform for Microtale writers. Being a writer myself, I love to weave micro tales too! And once in a while even a non writer is seen penning exceptional micro fiction.

Rafaa Dalvi's Small Is Big, a collection of tiny tales, is work of a prolific writer.I have followed Rafaa's writing for years now. In fact, it was his blog and writings that encouraged me to dive into this world of words and I started my own escape, my own blog.

Tales are alphabetically arranged. Some of the works that I really loved were- Awoke, Beauty Marks, Birthday Special, Change, Daddy, Desire, Doctor, Faint, Goodbye, Homesick, Lie, Lookalike, Management, Mother's Love, Name, Ring, Scars, Suffer, The Switch, Trapped, Useless, Zoom.

Every tale strikes a chord. To get this book in just Rs 49/- was a treat. I read it on Kindle.

Anyone who has even a minor interest in literature should read this masterpiece.

One could sit with a friend and discuss their take on almost each story. This book can be such a conversation starter! These micro tales are absolute gems and their impact is everlasting. Brilliant work. Would love to see this one in print too.

Congratulations and huge credit to Rafaa, you are so so talented and dexterous enough to keep most of your stories open to interpretation.

MUST READ! Looking forward to more such tales.

Rating: 5/5 stars

Download the book now and read it on the go on your Kindle app or device.

Monday, 1 January 2018

Body Shaming #YouAreEnough #SayNoToBodyShaming #TabooTalk

The action or practice of humiliating someone by making mocking or critical comments about their body shape or size or complexion is ‘body shaming’.

Did you ever stop and think about how often we are told to change our appearance? Magazines constantly offer tips about how to lose weight “in days,” appear slimmer “instantly,” and hide our “imperfections”… without actually knowing anything about us, much less our appearance.  This is one example of body-shaming, and it is everywhere.  

Sitcoms so frequently use overweight characters’ bodies as the basis of many of the show’s jokes.  It has become the norm to criticize aspects of our bodies as some type of bonding experience with friends. Body-shaming (criticizing yourself or others because of some aspect of physical appearance) can lead to a vicious cycle of judgment and criticism.  It is said that it is desirable to look slimmer, smaller, and tanner.  And if we don’t, we worry that we are at risk of being the target of someone else’s body-shaming comments.
 
Body-shaming manifests in many ways:

1) Criticizing your own appearance, through a judgment or comparison to another person. (i.e.: “I’m so ugly compared to her.” “Look at how broad my shoulders are.”)

2) Criticizing another’s appearance in front of them, (i.e.: “With those thighs, you’re never going to find a date.”)

3) Criticizing another’s appearance without their knowledge. (i.e.: “Did you see what she’s wearing today? Not flattering.” “At least you don’t look like her!”).

No matter how this manifests, it often leads to comparison and shame, and perpetuates the idea that people should be judged mainly for their physical features.

Learn to accept yourself and boost your self esteem and lift others up. Watch my YouTube video as I talk more on this below! 

Hear me speak, as I talk about body shaming and how to deal with it. I would love to know your thoughts and experiences about it, comment below how you dealt with it. Is body shaming an issue you have encounter? Let’s make it interactive, please! Hopefully, the trend will begin to shift from body-shaming to celebrating women of all sizes, shapes & colors.


Why I Won't Ever Buy A Barbie Doll For My Daughter POST LINK - http://aayeshashewholives.blogspot.in/2017/08/why-i-wont-ever-buy-barbie-doll-for-my.html
 

Sunday, 31 December 2017

But You're My Home


Everybody has a home team: It's the people you call when you get a flat tire or when something terrible happens. It's the people who, near or far, know everything that's wrong with you and love you anyways. These are the ones who tell you their secrets.


I cannot explain,
What you mean to me,
Cause words just don’t justify,
Anything anymore.

Every time, I look at you,
There is a kind of stillness I feel.

I steal chances to hold your hand,
An embrace, a kiss,
A touch,
Yup, that's how in love I am with you.

You are my kindred soul,
Inspiring me to do so much more,
Around you, I can just be me,
Not a care for the outside world.

Issues, we raise a few,
Changes, we adapt,
Together, we will always make it through.

I feel all magical about me,
Because you are the one.
You complete me,
And you don't even know how,
Neither do I,
But you are my home.