Like every girl, I was excited about marriage right from my childhood days.
I never thought beyond the time that I would spend happily with my prince charming. But today when I am married, I realize that marriage is not all roses.
It’s not just about being with your beloved and having a gala time.
There is so much more to it. It comes with its own share of responsibilities, duties, sacrifices and compromises. I can’t wake up anytime I want to. I am expected to be up and ready before everyone else in the family. I can’t laze around in my pyjamas throughout the day. I am expected to be presentable every time. I have to talk in low voice, respectfully with everyone unlike home where I could scream and shout at things and demand.
I can’t just go out anytime I want to. I am expected to be sensitive to the needs of the family. I just can’t hit the bed anytime I want to. I am expected to be active and around the family. I can’t expect to be treated like a princess but I am supposed to take care of everyone else in the family.
And then I think to myself, ‘Why did I get married at all?’ I was happier with you, mom. Sometimes I think of coming back to you and getting pampered again.
I want someone to cook for me too, run after me to eat food and bring something for me to eat like you always used to bring whenever you visited the market.
I want to come home to my favorite food cooked by you every evening after a nice outing with friends. I want to sleep on your laps like I have no worry in this world. I want to ask money for enjoyment from dad and again from you but now I have to think twice before purchasing anything. I was possessive about all my belongings but here I have to allow everyone to use my stuff because I cannot annoy anyone.
But then I suddenly realize, had you not got married and made such sacrifices in your life, I wouldn’t have had so many wonderful memories to hang on to. And suddenly, the purpose of all this becomes clear - to return the same comfort, peace and happiness to my new family that I got from you. And I am sure that as time would pass, I would start loving this life equally as you do. Thank you mom for all the sacrifices and compromises you made. They give me the strength to do the same. I will try to be a complete woman like you.