Tuesday, 5 December 2017

25 Perks Of Dating Me !!!



What are the perks of dating you?” This question probably went up a long time ago on Quora. A question that says, “Talk about yourself, and on this one question, you are only required to give the good points.” Wow! I can see narcissists’ eyes lighting up everywhere. But I think it might be fun. I have never marketed myself before but here’s my attempt :
  1. I am an old school romantic - You will receive a ton of hand-made gifts, letters & notes. And the best part, I will get them delivered to you when you aren’t expecting anything.
  2. I am unpredictable - I will show up at your work unannounced and make it a lunch date with you. I will travel across the world to come see you and say “Hi”. Show up at your doorstep at 4am, whisk you away to say “I love you”.
  3. I am a big time foodie - Rest assured, we will eat at each restaurant out there. I love to try different cuisines and dishes.
  4. I will love you for who you are - I either love you or hate you, nothing in between. I won’t try to change you or your habits in any way (unless they are really bad for you!).
  5. Lots of new adventures - We will keep trying out a lot of new things, right from learning a new language to clay painting to pottery to dancing classes, it will be an adventurous ride. Ooh and did I mention travelling?
  6. Anniversaries - We will celebrate our anniversary every year, no excuses.
  7. Financial Freedom - I am great at managing money & finances. I will help you achieve financial stability & freedom.
  8. I am great listener - You can talk to me the entire night & I will listen to you patiently. I will respect your opinions & thoughts always!
  9. I can handle my life very well - I am extremely independent and I have learned to handle my life pretty well, so you won’t hear me whining about life.
  10. Time is everything - Of all things on earth, I will make sure I always have time for you. I understand that time means everything, hence you will never complain that I don’t give you enough time.
  11. When we fight - I can’t stay mad at anyone for long, so even if we have a big argument you are pretty sure that I am going to come back and say sorry first.
  12. I love kids - I love kids a lot, the only time you will need to share me is with our kid(s).
  13. Pretty committed - If I say 'only for you', believe me more than the Myntra offers saying that. I’m a forever and always kind of person.
  14. I am a writer. If I love you, you’ll automatically become my muse. So you’ll probably have beautiful poems written about you. You’ll also be bombarded with long, genuine, letters/messages/emails that express my love for you. Also, throw in 3-4 male fictional characters, because they’ll definitely be inspired by you. And at least one full length novel that tells our story. So in short, if I fall in love with you, I’ll make the whole world fall for you too. Like they say, the easiest way to achieve immortality is to make a writer fall in love with you.
  15. Memes: I’ll tag you in a lot of memes that will keep you laughing and smiling throughout the day.
  16. Our dates will be low-key. Expect pizza dates, strolls at the park, while we have a heart to heart; chilling at the beach, sipping coffee while we listen to good music; gazing at the night sky while we try to unravel the universe, small picnic dates, to name a few.
  17. I’ll always split the bill. I’m very systematic when it comes to money. I don’t like owing anyone money or taking them for granted.
  18. Honest. I can’t beat around the bush, and I’m honest to bits. So if you ask me something I’ll be completely honest about it. I’m also very good at taking criticism. So you don’t have to lie to me when I ask you something. I expect you to be 100% honest with me when I ask for your opinion.
  19. Feelings > Material. So I don’t expect you to splurge on me or buy me expensive gifts. I’d prefer something more thoughtful like a mix tape of all the songs that remind you of me, or a heartfelt letter (I won’t ever say no to pizza though.)
  20. Your dreams are my dreams. I’m going to fight for you. I won’t let you give up. I like ambitious men. So if there’s something you want to achieve, I’ll give you all my support. Feeling down and under confident? Hit me up and I’ll give you a nice little pep-talk that will make you feel like you’re the king of the world, and you can achieve anything you set your mind to.
  21. I’m tiny. I’m short, like exactly 5 Feet. Short girls are adorable. You automatically feel protective of them. Also, you’ll enjoy giving me hugs.
  22. I’m a hopeless romantic. And since I write about love and read about it too…well, you can expect our relationship to resemble the kind people make movies on, or write books about. And not in a bad way. You’re going to feel like the luckiest guy alive, trust me.
  23. Not just falling, but growing in love. I believe that there’s no point in being with someone if you don’t somehow make each other better in some way. Us meeting each other, and being with each other has a purpose. That’s why fate brought us together. And that purpose is that we both become better versions of ourselves. So I’ll strive to grow. With you.
  24. Always there for you. While it would be nice if you didn’t call me at 4 AM but if you did, I’ll be there. I’m very good at solving problems and making decisions. So if you’re confused, you know who to come to.
  25. I won't ask you to lift heavy bags for me. Just to prove the stereotype wrong, I will lift your bags too. I'm crazy like that. :D

Monday, 27 November 2017

Second Chances In Life


"I have become convinced that God thoroughly enjoys fixing and saving things that are broken. That means that no matter how hurt and defeated you feel, no matter how badly you have been damaged, God can repair you. God can give anyone a second chance." -Melody Carlson

GIVING YOURSELF SECOND CHANCES

Second chances are the greatest gifts to yourself. The opportunity of a second chance is a new beginning, the ability to right a wrong, to encourage love, to ask for forgiveness. It can be life altering.

Damaged people can survive. There are points in our lives when we are damaged -emotionally, mentally and you feel like you are stranded on an island, all by yourself. We forget our abilities on such tough days.

Sooner or later, we all go through a crucible. Most believe there are two types of people who go into a crucible. The ones who become stronger from the experience and survive it, and the ones who die. 
 
So choose yourself. Value life. TRUST, LIVE!

At one of stage of my life, my fear and depression decided the fate of my life. However, today, I am the one who is ruling it. I morphed from a damaged to happy personality. And, I believe I am capable of follow the steps, that surely turns me into happy person in future.

Life can knock us down, especially when we’re faced with problems that seem almost impossible to overcome. But that doesn’t mean you should give up. Try and try until things get better because you deserve all the wonderful things this life can offer. So go ahead, make mistakes, learn from them and live life to the fullest.

Carl Jung, the Swiss psychologist, was the first to coin the term “synchronicity” as a synonym for “meaningful coincidence.” Synchronistic events may at first appear to be random, but actually reveal a deeper meaning and order in one’s life.

Synchronicity often happens during major life changes. Significant loss, a new birth, personal crisis, and illness are powerful breeding grounds for synchronicity. It’s as if your soul is inviting you to take a new direction in your life. If you stay open and aware, you’ll start to notice synchronous events that act as guides for your next steps. By looking deeply at general themes or patterns that emerge, you can see where in your life your soul is asking you to grow
 
So instead of sulking and feeling gloomy and let desolation creep in because of your failure, let there be a ray of hope – a hope to get that hard-to-get second chance, which may transform your life in a way that you always wanted and waited for. Second chance that can give a new meaning to your existence and help you regain the lost confidence that is affecting your happiness. Second chance that would determine how serious you are about things that matter in your life! Second chance that’ll help you take a decision whether you still can fight against all odds and make things sail smooth.

Look around, analyze situations and ask yourself - Hasn’t life been kind to you ever? Has life always given you miseries and then not giving you a chance to correct your mistakes? Can’t be the case! It’s might be the case that you haven’t been attentive enough to notice and grab that second chance that came your way at some point. So it’s your mistake and you are at fault. If you have become used to living with regrets and don’t want to take or give second chances, then it’s not fair to blame life either.

GIVING OTHERS A SECOND CHANCE

Giving someone a second chance doesn’t mean that you “lost” as if life were a game where we keep score. The second chance is a process of self-healing. It is an opportunity for self-growth. The second chance is your new beginning to make a difference in yourself and your life.

There are many reasons that we wish to have a second chance. Perhaps, you want to mend something or a relationship with someone or pass that one exam. It may be because you made some sort of misstep on your career path. Or you have made mistakes in a past relationship and want to rekindle that relationship. Whatever it is, you want another opportunity, and you want to make some changes in yourself. In essence, the second chance is about just that: an opportunity.

Giving someone a second chance means trusting them again, it means believing that against all odds that they can rehabilitate themselves or abstain from creating the same problems. It means faith, and an understanding of what it is to be an imperfect human being.

The truth is - 
 
We’re all capable of terrible things. We all do damage. But we are all creatures of redemption, if we seek it. First, we have to give ourselves a second chance. No matter what mistake we’ve made or how many of them we have made, there are more of them to come. Each time we have to learn to forgive ourselves, and to teach ourselves an unwritten lesson.

More than the chances that others have given to me, I’m thankful of the second chances that I have given others. Some did deserve them, while others definitely didn’t. Whether they sabotaged their stroke of luck is irrelevant, because I’ll never be left to wonder if people are capable of change.

Embrace second chances!


Sunday, 26 November 2017

Steadfast In Love





Sometimes when we are sitting side by side, I look down at your shoulder blades. I follow their soft slope down your arms to find your hand locked into mine. There is both a softness and a strength behind the shapes of your body.
The rounded lines almost tell lies, but I know the endurance they have faced. I know the weight they have lifted—the hardships can’t be seen on the canvas of your skin, but I know they are there, just an inch below.
We can’t describe our lives as anything less than blessed. The clashing of our personalities is heavenly. We only become stronger and more steadfast in our love…because our love is not a fragile thing. I smell your existence like smelling a nearby daisy field. We were two accidents, that were waiting to happen.

As I hurled myself into your destiny, I found you, when I wasn't even looking for you. Love found us both. And joined us together like two continents colliding with one another. We were meant to be.

Saturday, 25 November 2017

How Much Does Skin Color, Height, etc. Really Matter in Indian Marriages?



From skin-lightening lotions and creams, to matrimonial ads that specify ‘light-skinned’ or ‘fair’ bride, it is often implicitly understood that a woman with a lighter skin tone is more desirable. However, would it still raise eyebrows in an urban set-up? Yes, it does.

We are all curious beings; sometimes judgemental as well.

Are you “fair,” “wheatish,” or “very fair” or "white"?

Probably you are “wheatish” or “dark”, and hence you stumbled upon this post. And if you are fair, “very fair”, probably you have things a little simpler in this world, as far as marriage goes, probably.

Have you seen matrimonial ads on newspapers and internet? Most of the families want ‘fair’ brides and grooms. Don’t you find it funny? But this 'colourism' is a very serious issue to be discussed. 

This make youngsters in India, especially girls depressed who are in marital age. Not only women, men too experience these kind of hurdles in India when it comes to arranged marriages.

Why should you marry a guy or a girl from a family who care about your ‘skin tone’ but not your talent or nature? Doesn’t it sound odd to you? Do you think you will have a happy life with your partner if you change your born skin color by applying those fairness creams and doing beauty treatments?

So many people are all rounders; good at studies and etc but why people become so submissive when it comes to this kind of Indian traditional rules?

A person’s skin tone is decided by genes and birth. Being pale doesn’t mean that you’re a beauty queen and being dark or wheatish doesn’t mean that you are ugly. Being healthy and confident is the ‘real beauty’ in my view. Fair or dark, you are beautiful if you have a beautiful mind and healthy physique and not to forget a happy smiling face all the time. 

I have seen hundreds of dark and beautiful people including top celebrities. First understand that your skin tone is not a factor that measures your beauty. I kindly request you NOT to undergo any skin lightening treatments or something to WHITEN your skin for marriage purpose. Marriage is a beautiful bond between two loving humans and their families. Let it not become a business deal.

Several girls, from infancy, carry the burden of marriage on their young shoulders. And if that weren’t enough, there’s the added worry of skin colour that decides your fate, both for social acceptance and future marriage. Being fair/light is a solution for some, and for dark/wheatish, is to watch their parents save money for dowry, or better still, heed mother’s advice and use a fairness product. I was always proud of being a girl, but in a world like today - I feel it is a burden to be one.

The Internationally-acclaimed, Indian social beauty-meter says you need to be SLIM, BEAUTIFUL, FAIR (In some cases, WHITE!), have a height good enough to get married. Agar aapke paas inme se koi ek cheez bhi nahi hai, toh sorry, aapka kaam zara mushkil hai!  

The girl is also judged based upon her efficiency in domestic chores such as cooking, stitching, and cleaning. Why? Maybe she doesn't know all the above, because she was too busy educating herself. She will eventually learn.

Most matrimonial ads today tout skin colour, especially when the person being advertised is fair. Most ads, though, sell skin as the ubiquitous “wheatish,” a word describing skin colour that ONLY exists in India, and whose etymology I am still unclear about.

After all, just take a look at the Indian consumer market, crowded with umpteen varieties of men’s fairness screen, and then the advertising, more robust than ever before, where even men have jumped on the fairness bandwagon, led by the ironically dark-skinned role-model Shahrukh Khan.

Educated girls, aren’t getting married these days, because they fail to meet the beauty standards set by the groom and his beloved mother! Every mother wants a bahu endowed with at least fair skin for her adorable son. And their most hilarious reason is: fair bahus will give birth to fair, whiter-than-milk grandchildren.

 No one asks you about the struggle you put up to educate yourself, firstly you are checked for your skin color, height, and educational qualifications if any, come quite later, girl.

I want to question the society which breaks a million girls’ hearts on a daily basis, that why is fairness the ONLY meter to judge someone’s beauty? Why? Her mindset will raise your children, not her body and good looks. Choose wisely. Stop falling prey to dogmatic views.

For the spineless guys, who are scared to fall for a dusky or a dark girl -

Probably, I have nothing to say to you, except that you will only realise the impact of this discrimination when it will come down to your own daughter, some day.

Girls – Be proud of your skin tone, you don’t need to apply ubtans, and other fairness remedies, or choose a foundation 2 shades lighter than your skin. There’s absolutely no need for it.

I agree that these practices are slowing fading away, but still it hasn’t been completely abolished. Only if you don’t support these silly cultures, our country will develop. We shouldn’t follow the wrong path knowingly as that will be a bad example for others. As much as I love Indian culture and traditions, there are few things I hate about it to core. To abolish these kind of practices such as choosing brides seeing skin color, dowry system and etc in India, we youngsters should STOP following it! 

I don’t understand this idea – some Indian guys and their families who do this match fixing preludes, where they check out the potential bride physically and then set an eye on another girl in the house, the base being that girl is better looking than the bride and that is directly proportional to being fairer than the bride. Excuse me, are you in a cow market for you to choose a cow? Are Indian women decorative items for you to select and spurn at will? What if the girl you came to scrutinize says that your brother is better looking than you and that she would choose him over you? You’ll get bull mad right? 

Indeed, dark skinned Indian girls who have been rejected by potential suitors are made to believe that the fault lies within themselves. They are told by every Indian aunty to settle for any loser because they have a perceived lesser skin tone. Dark skinned Indian girls of marriageable age are told to play down their expectations when searching for a man to marry. If they are too choosy, they will end up being spinsters, such busybody aunties say.

If a dark skinned Indian girl in her 30s is still unmarried, Indian people are quick to comment that she must be meticulous in choosing a husband, hence left on the shelf.

So many girls see their parents struggle to find a groom for them and get married as early as possible so that later their age does not pile on to their“ugliness” and further lessen the chances to get married. This is the story of thousands of ‘unmarried daughters’ in our society. They face this bitter truth everyday, where their families fight their concern over how to get their daughters married and settled overcoming their being ‘unbeautiful’.

This is evil. Every girl, every woman and every human being is beautiful. Beauty is a state of mind. Beauty is a feeling. We are all worthy of being married to good men and live a happy life- without compromising, giving a huge dowry or anything of the sort. Such behavior of the family and society is very dangerous for a girl to build her self-esteem and realize her worth.

Mindsets need to change. Collectively, Indian people should learn to give credit to dark skinned Indian girls’ potential and ability rather than harp negatively over their skin tone. A girls’ potential and abilities will move mountains and make a home – their skin colour won’t.

This obsession with fair skin doesn’t seem to be fading any  time soon. It is so far ingrained in our society that it has now become a  subconscious part of our psyche. So much in the name education,  emancipation, love and holy matrimony!

Girls are also rejected on the grounds that they wanted to work after marriage and do something in their life.

At times, grooms are just looking for partners who are hep but, after marriage, they want the same woman to be a homemaker. They want arm candies outside the house but a working cow once you are inside the four walls of a house.

Discrimination will never end. In fact, it's discrimination that is pouring money into the pockets of Fair & Lovely. I really am truly sorry to see the intellectual capacity of such people who value appearances. "All that glitters is not gold".

But, but... Real relationships are complex!

I can only say that they require a lot of patience, a large heart, the willingness to learn and unlearn and to be able to do so with grace and goodwill. Fortunately, none of these things are dependent on how a person looks – be it, the man or the woman. Of course, you need to be attracted to each other but attraction works on several levels. And in the end, whether you have had an arranged marriage or a love marriage, most marriages that are happy are the ones in which both the husband and the wife, are working hard – listening to each other, communicating, improving.

To all dark skinned Indian girls out there, you are worth so much more than your skin colour and if anyone tells you otherwise, don’t believe them. Their small mindedness is not your fault. If anyone downgrades your deliciously choc colour, tell them, "Then it’s your problem, not mine," and strut away, head held high, bursting with confidence of being a sexy dark skinned Indian girl. Feel sorry for those who failed to see you as the awesome dark skinned Indian woman you are both inside and out. It is your life so marry a man who loves you for all your virtues and convictions and character, not one who nitpicks on your skin tone.

Remember, marriage is not what life is all about. I have made marriage a centre point in this post - because colorism and shade cards are concepts prevalent in the matters of marriage. If you have to compromise on your self-respect and be with someone, I would suggest, be alone!

Disclaimer: This post is not meant to hurt anyone. Apologies if you are sensitive!

Sunday, 19 November 2017

When My Soul Sister Got Married!

“A soulmate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we’re pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we’re safe in our own paradise. Our soulmate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When we’re two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we’ve found the right person. Our soulmate is the one who makes life come to life. ” — Richard Bach

Stefi, she means the world to me. She is a sister I never had.

As you start this new chapter of your life, as you unite with timeless love and friendship, I just want to tell you how emotional it is to see you as a bride-to-be! You mean so much to me! My first friend, my first confidant.

She had the most elegant bridal shower one day before her wedding :)


Her close family and friends dressed her up in all white. The white gown  hugged her perfectly. The most hip bride with sneakers under her ever so beautiful gown - my beautiful friend!



Today was the day she was getting married. She had to start a new journey and had to travel an unknown path that she had never traversed before.

While she arose and gracefully walked to begin her new journey, she looked the most beautiful!

More importantly though, the tradition, the love, and the pure happiness in that space as family & friends all gathered in celebration for our dear Stefi was truly undeniable.

“What do you do when you go to a friend’s wedding?” is one of the questions I get asked most.  It is utter joy to attend a close friend's wedding,  to enjoy their big day with them and embrace the spirit of their celebration!

It is an unparalleled feeling. Celebrating one of the biggest moments in my best friend’s life was absolutely priceless. There’s nothing like seeing your friends with that magical glow about them. Amiright?! The joy is such, that I never danced, but I did! And I did it HAPPILY, without getting conscious!

The small details become the big picture, Stefi & Jimmy did an incredible job incorporating meaningful details into every part of their wedding. They carefully planned the tiny details and elements of their wedding - something that made it look like everything was given so much thought!

The caricature on the card was beautiful. The wedding hashtag was lovely - #ElevatorLove - since they both stay in same building, just different floors! Such cuties!




I enjoyed the wedding to bits!

Congratulations to you both. :* Wishing you and Jimmy a lifetime of love and happiness. Let this adventure begin. Love you!


Watch their First Dance on this beautiful song J


Wednesday, 15 November 2017

Let the fall make you stronger!

I believe that love is a light switch: Something flicks on.We get an overwhelming sensation.It hits us like a bag of bricks. Or a strong arrow.When we know, we know. Right?  Love is a series of choices.

The way he looks at me. How hard he makes me laugh. How unexpectedly, he tugs my arm and rests on my shoulders. The way he makes me feel when I don’t feel anything.

But like an airplane flight, there will be turbulence. The fights. The disagreements. The little things that will bother us. His socks. Her shopping. We might start wondering if we’ve made the right choice.

Once we are in doubt, we have to make another choice: to continue to fly with this person or jump out of the plane.

Love is making a choice every single day, to either love or not love. That’s it. It’s that simple. Either to continue the process or not.
Sometimes it is easy to love. Sometimes it is extremely difficult. But at the end of the day, it’s always a choice.

Always choose each other, fly and soar higher, grow stronger each day. And let the love deepen – the longer you stay on the flight and embark on the journey together, the more fruit the process will bear. The investment will pay off. 

Let the fall make you stronger!

Monday, 13 November 2017

Book Review : Ramayana: The Game of Life – Book 4: Stand Strong



Author - Shubha Vilas

The Ramayana is not a story. It is a way of life. It is the game of life.

Life is a constant reminder that nothing, however powerful in one season, remains so in the next. These endless cycles of change could really spook someone who is unprepared to face the realities. Remember that situations of helplessness are always created by one’s own limited imagination.

• Perception appears larger than reality. Many were afraid to battle the Lankans, but grounded in reality, Rama and his army managed to free Sita.
• Fear results in pain. Lying broken and bruised, Sampati did not believe he could help until he did and it made all the difference.
• Clarity leads to freedom. Rama never wavered in his single-minded pursuit, and eventually got exactly what he wanted.

Do you have the courage to face your fears?

AUTHOR :

Shubha Vilas is a spiritual seeker and a motivational speaker. He helps people in dealing with modern-day life situations through the teachings of the Bhagavad Gita, Ramayana and other dharmic traditions. He conducts leadership seminars in premier institutes across the world and inspires deeper human values.

REVIEW:

Stand Strong is the fourth book in Ramayana: The Game of Life series. A modern retelling of the Kishkindha Kanda of Valmiki’s epic, it reminds us through the tragic story of brothers Vali and Sugriva that life is like a dangerous treasure hunt. One must be resilient while running through confusing, zigzagging paths to acquire essential wisdom.

This book is an authentic narration of the epic life lessons helping readers keep faith and conquer their fears. I have read the previous three parts. I feel that everything is alright and in control as long as I read this series. It gives meaning to my life and give me an intrinsic changeless core inside my heart to rely upon, in this ever changing and forever shifting external world.

Amazing book for the youth, it is filled with the practical situation in our life relating them to the incidents of the Ramayana. Things are nicely explained and filled with the touch of suspense and with it a nice teaching of our daily life. It is a beautifully written book covering even the most intricate details of the period.

I liked the book and I am sure people with a taste in Indian mythology would like it. And, for people who are still to read about it, Shubha’s books can be a fitting beginning. Overall, I recommend this book. Read it. It will not disappoint you. There is something or other to learn for anyone from this Game of Life.

I wish that may this Shubha Vilas' Ramayana may touch many more hearts, and enable them to improve their game of life. This book is a nourishment to your soul.

Rating – 4.5/5

Saturday, 28 October 2017

Faasley


Faasle bahut hain,
Par itna maan lijiye,
Aap khayalon me itne karib hain ki faaslon ka ehsaas hi nahin hota.

Aaina hoon main,
Mere samne aakar to dekho,
Khud nazar aaoge,
Tere harr lafz ko ibaadat banakar sambhala hai,
Dagmaga jaoge mera dard utha kar to dekho,
Yun to aasaan nazar aata hai,
Kitna mushkil hai meri raaha se jaakar to dekho.

Ajnabee toh yun hue,
Lagta hai baant ke samandar ko do dariya kiye,
Kabhi haalat se, kabhi zamane se bebas ho gaye,
Aate jaate najane kitne pal tere naam kiye,
Jhatak kar haath jab bhi chale door tujhse,
Zindagi ne tujh mein ulajhne k bahane hazaar diye.

Kayi zakhm dil ke seeye gaye,
Kayi mushkilon me jeeye,
Magar hote apne barbaad wajood ki khabar na le sake..

Faaslon ka asli ehsaas toh tab hua,
Jab maine kaha 'theek hun' aur aapne maan liya..

Darmiyan humare fasslon ko kuch aur bhi baaki rehne do,
Ek baar fir kabhi, yun hi achanak milne ki aarzo toh baaki rehne do..

Kal mile hum agar kahin,
Toh kuch ho kehne tumhare pass aur kuch sunne humare paas,
Gile shikvon ki ho agar baarish, toh bheeg sake hum sath sath,
Muh fer kar na nikal jayein, ajnabeeyon jaise,
Kuch lamho ki hi sahi,
Mulakaton se toh na katrayein..

Friday, 20 October 2017

Our ‘Almost’!



Relationships that don’t reach their destiny teach us so many things -

1. People are not possessions
Loving and then parting, shows us that, however much we care for a person, we can never own them, their thoughts and their decisions.

2. You learn how to let go gracefully
As hard as it may seem at the time, failed relationships teach you that letting go gracefully, and with your dignity intact, is far better than desperately clinging on to a sinking ship. There are certain relationships that are brought to us not as the happily ever after, but to teach you how to honorably let go and grieve the loss of a relationship.  

3. It teaches you that over-analysing a situation achieves nothing

4. It teaches us to never take anything for granted
At times, we take things we have for granted and only their loss makes us realize how important they were as a part of our own existence itself!

5. Sometimes, grieving is life time. Healing is not a linear process
The end of a relationship brings with it a spectrum of feelings where our emotions go from grief to relief, sadness to joy, and anger to excitement. As we travel along those spectrums, we may find that one day we feel like we’re on top of the world, to then feel instantly distressed when we see reminders of a past relationship. In that moment, we feel as if all of the progress we’ve made has gone down the drain Sometimes a person’s loss is forever and it will haunt you always, it is going to be a baggage you would have to carry till grave. Unfortunate, but true.

Saturday, 14 October 2017

Book Review : Kalki

Title: Kalki

Subtitle: Avatar of Vishnu

Author: Kevin Missal

Publishers: Kalamos Literary Services LLP

ISBN-13: 9788193503300

Number of Pages: 462

Genre: Fiction, inspired by Mythology



The Plot:
Whenever there is a decline in righteousness and an upsurge in unrighteousness, at that time I take birth again – Lord Govind

Born in the quiet village of Shambala, Kalki Hari, son of Vishyunath and Sumati has no idea about his heritage until he is pitted against tragedies and battles.

Whisked into the province of Keekatpur, which is ruled by Lord Kali, Kalki sees the ignominy of death trumping life all around him. He learns that he is born to cleanse the world he lives in, for which he must travel to the North and learn the ways of Lord Vishnu’s avatar; from an immortal who wields an axe.

But trapped in the midst of betrayals, political intrigue and force that seek to decimate him will he be able to follow his destiny before Kalyug begins?

The Author:
Kevin Misal is a 21 year old graduate from St Stephens College. He has previously written 4 books so far, ranging from crime to mythology to horror. 

He wrote his 1st book at the age of 14 (wow!) and it was released by the then Chief Minister of Delhi. His 2nd book was written at the age of 16 and was published by a British-Indie press. 

Missal is also a pioneer in writing the World’s First InstaRead (which he kindly sent to me!) and is a bestseller on Amazon under the ‘Horror’ category. Kevin is also the co-founder and co-owner of Kalamos Literary Services, who publish and promote fledgling writers and help make a mark in the literary industry.

Review:
Before reading the book I was terrified by its size. There are many books that are fat and have tons of pages which can make the reader doze off to sleep, as they pick it to read. But this book is a complete page turner. Each and every page justified its reason of being a part of this book. The storyline is very addictive and keeps you glued. The author has done justice to all the characters and has described each one perfectly.

Fiction inspired by mythology is an interesting genre to read. And when you find out that it has been authored by a 21-year old, you look forward to a fun ride, as it is bound to have a touch of wildness and freshness to it.

Dharmayoddha Kalki is Part 1 of a series of books to follow. It is about the 10th and the final avatar of Vishnu known as Kalki who is said to appear after the current epoch of Kalyug ends and will usher in the next epoch called the Satayug. 

The author, Kevin Missal, has let his imagination run free to fictitious villages and kingdoms, with multiple characters and their colorful worlds. His descriptive writing is so on point, that it shapes the characters and etches out their characteristics for us, making them come alive, just like a movie.

My only little complaint is the indulgent editing. The book could have been made a tighter read with some clever editing.

This book talks about how the son of a normal couple residing in the village of Shambhala who does has no idea of his destiny. The book is divided into two chapters called the Battle of Shambhala and The rise of Kali. The battle of Shambhala part deals with Kalki’s life in Shambhala and the second chapter highlights the wrath of Lord Kali who rules the kingdom of Keekatpur and is known for his atrocities and political influence. 

Kalki realizes that he has to put an end to these atrocities, evilness and cleanse the foul world of the evil forces. He also faces many betrayals in his way and learns to use his powers to help the world become a better place. The story ended on a pessimistic note of suspense which certainly has made me look forward for the upcoming parts.

I particularly loved the character of Kali who has a strong personality and stands out as a very bold heroic character throughout the story.  Kevin has addressed many social stigmas of the society and how they are still an integral part of the modern world in different forms.

I loved this line from the book:  “Strength in a person doesn’t define a hero. But where he uses his strength is what matters the most. A hero isn’t born. He’s made. Through people, through journeys and most of all, through tragedy.”

Verdict:
Kevin Missal is a gifted writer. I am sure he has thoroughly enjoyed conceptualizing this book and has lived the process of writing it. The cover of the book justifies the theme of the book and gives a mythological feel. It was very easy to visualize the events while reading as if they took place before my sight, which means the narration is bang on. The way he has presented the story makes the book an addictive piece of mythological literature. The win of good over evil and how the society functions as a whole are some of the major takeaways from this book. Overall, it was a very commendable, inspirational and blockbuster read. I highly recommend this book to all those who have interest in reading mytho-fantasy thrillers. Nonetheless, I am waiting anxiously for the other parts to be out, one by one! Kudos to Kevin!

Overall Rating: 4.8/5

Saturday, 30 September 2017

Book Review : Zero Debt

Name of the book: Zero Debt: Break the Debt Cycle and Reclaim Your Life
Author: Neeraj Deginal
Genre: Non-Fiction, Self Help
No. of Pages:  112 pages



Zero Debt – Break the Debt Cycle and Reclaim Your Life, is about the author’s ten-year long journey from going neck deep into debt to being absolutely debt-free. In this book you will learn:
1. How the author got into debt (circumstances)
2. How being in debt paralysed cognitive decision making
3. How even simple day to day life became complicated
4. The thought process applied by the author to analyse his situation rationally
5. Systematic steps taken by the author to become and stay debt-free and the dilemmas faced during execution
6. Further actions taken to simplify life and plan for a better life

REVIEW: When I received this book, I thought it must be boring and based on accounts and finances, which honestly I have least interest in! My father handles and advises me on money related matters, with me being clueless! This book exactly highlights how both the schools and families fail to impart any sort of financial education, and how as earning adults we have to pay the price for it. I could so relate to it after a few pages!

This book seeks to inspire the reader to become debt-free, which eventually leads them to total freedom - financial freedom, emotional freedom or freedom from stress. As the author states, this is based on his experiences and the problems he faced. The steps he took may not work for everyone, but he wants to inspire people to rethink their situations.

Zero Debt, Break the debt cycle and reclaim your life is wonderfully useful book by Neeraj Deginal. This is the real life story of a man who was crushed under endless EMIs. It narrates us how he was neck deep in debts and how he came out of it to become cent percent debt free. I am sure most of us, who bought a home to save tax, bought second home as an investment, purchased a car because it was on EMIs and are left with meagre salary after all the deductions, will be able to relate to him.

Neeraj in his book has precisely articulated on the various phases of life in relevance with the financial preparations required, backed up with real-world experiences connecting both parts of life. The book certainly highlights the Dos & Don'ts of the practical life with emphasis on planning for the future and making educated decisions on even small money matters.

The book is extremely well written. The language is simple, yet riveting. The editing is superb. The book is divided into several short chapters which make it super easy to read. The book is interspersed with wonderful quotes.

Another interesting fact about this book is that it is a copyright free book. Though the book is based on the personal experiences of the author, according to him the ideas are not original. The objective of this book is to offer help and hence the readers are free to copy or reprint any content from it. So cool, isn't it?!

His journey through and out of debt using a systematic approach has been inspiring. I have already started working on my personal finances based on Neeraj's insights. It is a great and practical addition to anyone's personal finance library, articulated to convey the real life experiences of a growing professional in the corporate.

It contains invaluable lessons for those who are starting off their career or in the mid life and definitely there are lot of takeaways that would help one incorporate in their life to become debt-free for good.

NEGATIVES : The writing style the author prefers often omits articles such as "the" or "a" or "of," has some odd comma and semicolon placement. It becomes distracting in few places. Some topics are covered in depth more than once.

OVERALL VERDICT: The tips offered are not unique, really. They are common enough to have been tried and tested. So the author is sharing useful information, without being preachy. Truly inspiring and how everything is related (money, health). Must read for some great financial awareness. If are struggling on the financial front, this book could be your ultimate saviour.

Rating : ****/5

Disclaimer: I received a copy of book in return for my honest review.